Matthew Perry’s recent death has left not only his close friends and family in mourning but also his fans around the world. Many people feel a deep connection to Perry due to his iconic role as Chandler Bing on the beloved sitcom Friends. However, this intense grieving over the loss of a celebrity is not a new phenomenon. Psychologists explain that it is a normal response to losing someone with whom you have any kind of connection, even if it is one-sided.
Why do celebrity deaths hit us personally?
The answer lies in the concept of parasocial relationships, as outlined by psychologist Tracey Marks. These one-sided bonds are formed when individuals feel attached or connected to a public figure through exposure and relatability. Even if fans only see celebrities on their screens, the consistent presence and interaction through social media make them feel like a familiar presence in their lives, similar to a close friend or family member.
Moreover, the long-lasting appeal of shows like Friends and the endearing qualities of characters like Chandler Bing contribute to this sense of closeness. The fictional characters become embedded in viewers’ lives, and their departure feels like losing a part of their own personal history.
The grieving process for these beloved figures also plays out in the public eye, especially on social media, where news outlets, friends, family, and fellow fans post tributes and share their own mourning experiences. This intensifies the emotional impact and makes it difficult for fans to avoid the grief.
The legacy left behind
Celebrities leave behind a body of work that allows fans to revisit their performances and stay connected to them even after their passing. As Marks states, fans can still enjoy and consume the content created by their favorite celebrities. Additionally, these public figures often stand for greater causes or movements, making their loss feel like a loss of representation for specific communities or issues.
The passing of actors like Angus Cloud, who played a relatable character struggling with mental health on the show Euphoria, can deeply impact Gen Z-ers who resonate with his portrayal. Similarly, Matthew Perry’s openness about his struggles with addiction and his advocacy work make his death even more poignant for the millions of Americans facing similar challenges.
In reflecting on their contributions, fans can find solace in the positive impact celebrities have had on the world.
Day-to-day impact
Celebrity deaths shock us because we often perceive them as invincible. However, these losses serve as a reminder of our own vulnerability and mortality.
Psychologist Marks explains that these events prompt people to confront the reality of death and the potential for loss in their own lives. It can also be the first experience with grief for some individuals.
Discussing celebrity deaths can also serve as an opportunity to broach the topic of mortality with loved ones. Dr. Neeraj Gandotra suggests that these discussions can be educational and help individuals prepare for future losses in their own lives. Reflecting on mortality can lead to personal growth and a reevaluation of priorities.
