How my husband’s involuntary breathing habit affected our intimacy and sex life | Life and style

I have been with my husband for almost two decades. While our relationship is great, our sexual frequency is limited to once a month, and we are actively working on improving it. However, there’s been a persistent issue with my husband’s breathing habits. He has always been a noisy breather, relying solely on mouth-breathing. Initially, it wasn’t a concern, but over the past few years, it has worsened to the point where he cannot kiss me without exhaling fully into my mouth. This became problematic when we were getting intimate the other day. I had to pull away repeatedly because I couldn’t bear his full exhalation – it was unsettling and made me cough, preventing me from fully relaxing and enjoying the moment. He seemed oblivious to what was happening. This situation makes me reluctant to kiss him, especially when things are getting passionate, as his breathing becomes unbearable. I intend to address this issue with him, but with sensitivity and love. However, I also understand that he’s currently struggling with a recent pre-diabetes diagnosis, which has left him feeling down. Additionally, he tends to take feedback personally, and I don’t want to endanger our newly improving sex life.

It is crucial that you help your husband tackle this potentially serious physical problem by seeking evaluation and treatment from a medical professional. Remember, his health is at stake, and it should take priority over his sex life. You should consider consulting a sleep specialist and/or an ear, nose, and throat specialist immediately. Your husband is more likely to respond positively if he sees you as his supportive partner throughout this process. Instead of saying, “Unless you address your breathing issues, I won’t kiss you,” try saying, “I love you and I want you to be healthy and happy. I’ve noticed your breathing problems, which can impact your well-being, so I’m here to help you find the right professional.”

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