Jay, 36
We’ve mastered the art of mini sessions and take pride in delivering efficient orgasms.
Anita and I view sex as one of our hobbies. We value planning so that we can dedicate time to it. Perhaps this doesn’t sound particularly romantic; people often have the expectation that sex should be completely spontaneous, like in movies where they set the mood with music and seductive gestures. However, simply loving each other is not enough to maintain a satisfying sex life – it requires effort.
Often, Anita and I consult our schedules and designate time for sex, such as a free Saturday. Throughout the week, we boost our sexual connection with mini sex sessions, usually lasting about five minutes each. Typically, I’ll perform oral sex on Anita for the first two minutes, and the remaining three minutes will be dedicated to penetrative sex. We have perfected these mini sessions and pride ourselves on delivering quick orgasms.
However, if we have more than an hour available, we plan something more elaborate. For example, I might purchase a new sex toy for us to try. We enjoy light bondage and have been building a collection of floggers. One of the things I admire most about Anita is her inquisitive nature. Every couple of months, we experiment with something new to introduce different flavors and experiences into our sex life.
For the past couple of years, we have ventured into the world of swinging. Communication is key in coordinating schedules with other couples. Initially, we would only watch other couples or allow them to watch us. However, we have progressed to engaging in oral sex and touching with others. In the near future, we plan to fully engage in sexual activities with another couple.
What I appreciate about swinging is that I get the thrill and uncertainty of dating without feeling alone. Recently, we met a couple at a bar who declined our invitation to continue the evening at our place. It was a surprise because we had connected well during a video chat the previous week. While being rejected alone would feel miserable, walking home with the woman I love and discussing the experience is actually quite enjoyable.
Anita, 30
Jay is meticulous and thoughtful in all aspects, especially when it comes to sex.
I’ve always been attracted to men with beards. The sensation of their facial hair when kissing gives me a unique pleasure, and it signifies a gentle nature to me. Jay immediately captured my interest due to this quality. We connected on Tinder, originally intending for a casual encounter, but I quickly realized that there was something extraordinary happening between us.
Jay asked me a highly specific question about the niche field of linguistics I was studying. It was a type of question that no previous Tinder date had ever asked me, and I felt a strange jolt of recognition. I looked at him and thought, “Oh! It’s you!” I vividly remember our first kiss, which took place on a ferry in Amsterdam. He lightly pressed against my back before our lips met, almost as if seeking my consent.
Jay approaches everything with care and thoughtfulness, especially sex. Before we became intimate, he inquired if there was anything I wanted him to know or if there were any boundaries. Prior to meeting Jay, I had a negative experience where a previous partner initiated sex while I was asleep, leading to a breach of trust. Jay has been a tremendous support in helping me rebuild that trust. Now, six years into our relationship, I can explore my desires in bed freely. One of those desires is swinging. Jay and I have had numerous conversations about our ultimate sexual experiences, and two years ago, we felt ready to visit a sex club.
You’d be surprised by how intimate and comfortable a sex club can be. People walk around in slippers while casually exploring the premises. The first club we visited had the expected features like peepholes, private rooms, and saunas. But it also had a bar serving delicious barbecued food. We struck up a conversation with another couple who were slightly older and more experienced than us. Eventually, we all retreated to a private room together. Though we didn’t engage in physical contact with the other couple, we shared the experience of having sex next to them.
Since then, we have gone on three more sexual encounters with different couples. Jay and I have become comfortable with physical contact with the other couples and are gradually working towards full sexual encounters, commonly known as a “full swap” in the swinging community.
Before I explored swinging, I had concerns about feelings of jealousy. However, Jay’s caring nature has alleviated any worries. Swinging has actually brought us closer together. It’s an exciting secret we share, which strengthens our bond.
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