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ne of the most memorable birthday parties I’ve ever hosted was also one of the simplest and most affordable. Our eldest son wanted to invite his entire class for his fifth birthday, but I didn’t want to handle more than 20 five-year-olds. So instead, I decided to invite them to our back garden for some fun after school.
I made a call: no games, no prizes, no party bags, no extravagant feast. Just a casual invitation to swing by after school, hang out, and enjoy some cake. I also made it clear that presents were not necessary, which made it easier for the guests as well.
The result was simple and sweet. The kids entertained themselves, the parents had a chance to chat, and the birthday boy had a blast. Then, to my surprise, they all went home.
No one expected more, so no one was disappointed. The expectations were low, and so were the stress levels. It wasn’t the “best party ever” – and it wasn’t meant to be. It was good. And good was more than enough.
Of course, we could have kept it even simpler. Just a few close friends, or even just one. Some parents choose not to have a big party every year – imagine that! It may seem like breaking the rules, but those rules are often self-imposed. We have a choice.
Throwing a party should be about bringing joy to our child, our family, and our guests, not about following rigid rules and meeting unrealistic expectations that secretly bother us. If we spend more time doing things our way, within our budget, and less time trying to conform to what we think we should do, we’ll be more relaxed and sociable.
In any case, it seems that we are often too focused on meeting expectations without questioning them. Will other parents truly judge us harshly if we do things differently? Will our children truly be disappointed if their party doesn’t have all the fancy extras? If they are, it might be a chance for them to learn and appreciate what they already have instead of always wanting more.
If parties become all-or-nothing affairs, we might start dreading them and avoiding them altogether. But if we keep them casual and fun, we might actually enjoy them – and our guests are more likely to enjoy them too.
I once received an invitation to a park party that asked kids to bring their own drink bottles. It was a brilliant idea – it saved the hosts from buying drinks and aligned with environmental values. Some parents might worry that it’s too much to ask of a “guest,” but why shouldn’t we seek ways to simplify and share the load?
Sometimes, we need to “use our words” just like we tell our kids. If we’re concerned about breaking traditions and causing confusion, we can communicate our intentions clearly. We might worry that the word “party” automatically implies a grand event with all the bells and whistles, but expectations can be changed.
“Hey friends! Johnny is turning five! We’ve decided to keep it simple this year. No big ‘party,’ just a play at the park after lunch. No need for presents. xx”
It may seem silly to state the obvious, but sometimes clear communication is necessary to change expectations. Our words can foster understanding, eliminate awkwardness, challenge burdensome traditions, and make life easier.
We teach our kids that they don’t have to conform to what everyone else is doing, that it’s okay to be different, and that they can ask for help when needed. We should lead by example and do the same.
By choosing to break certain expectations, we can simplify our lives, become more relaxed parents, and inspire others to do the same. Some may judge us, but I believe most will celebrate our courage to do things differently.
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