- Being a mom of two, I handle all the scheduling and appointments while my husband excels in other aspects of parenting.
- Over time, I’ve realized the importance of overcommunication in our family’s scheduling.
- For every appointment, school event, or family trip, I make sure to add it to my calendar and share it with my husband.
Every morning, I wake up with messy hair, wide eyes, and a sense of panic as I grab my phone to check the calendar. Did I forget something? What’s on the agenda today? It’s an endless and exhausting task, as I’m the sole person responsible for keeping everything in order.
My husband is amazing, and I couldn’t have asked for a better partner. However, when it comes to making appointments, he struggles. This is a common situation in most partnerships. Usually, one person takes on the role of scheduling and coordinating for the family. It can be overwhelming and have a toll on the person taking up the administrative tasks.
While my husband excels at interacting with our kids and handling other parenting tasks, I understand that I can’t expect him to handle scheduling responsibilities. So, here’s what works for us in coordinating our busy lives:
Effective Communication
According to Better Health Channel, effective communication is crucial in any relationship to avoid small issues escalating into significant problems.
Instead of resorting to passive-aggressive comments, I take a deep breath, find a moment to sit down with my husband, and express my feelings and needs. Together, we go through the calendar and divide responsibilities. Open communication helps us become a cohesive team.
Utilizing Lists
Psychology Today suggests making lists as a productivity and organizational tool. Writing down tasks improves memory and allows us to multitask effectively by prioritizing and completing tasks one by one.
I personally love making lists, and my Notes app is filled with them. The best part is that I can share a note with my husband, so he can access and contribute to it. This is particularly helpful for daily to-do lists and grocery shopping.
If he happens to forget to check a list, a gentle reminder never hurts.
Shared Calendars
My calendar is my lifeline. I put everything on it, whether it’s work-related, family commitments, or personal events. It’s easily accessible and one of the first things I check every day. Calendars are essential for coordinating schedules, just like in any managerial role.
I ensure that my husband’s work calendar is synced with mine. Since he doesn’t use a personal calendar, his work calendar is where he checks daily. Whenever I schedule something, I immediately share it with him. Even events like our kids’ field trips or themed days at school are shared, so he is aware of them.
As I teach my children, we can’t control other people; we can only control ourselves. It’s in my nature to take charge, but a true partnership involves teamwork. Sometimes, one partner has to find the best way to make teamwork possible.
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