Nevertheless, I find it frustrating when other adults feel the need to correct my children’s behavior. It is especially bothersome when they offer something and then say, “You need to say ‘please.'”
My children were simply answering a question, and yet they were reprimanded for it. This dissatisfaction arises every time, but I’m unsure how to respond in the moment. It feels even more absurd considering that my middle child is just learning to speak in full sentences at the age of 2.
Although my mother does this frequently, I generally let it slide because she’s the grandma. However, can you advise me on how to handle situations where other adults correct my children’s etiquette, even when they are already being polite?
Miss Manners acknowledges that, apart from close family members, others should not be correcting your children’s manners. However, since you sought her advice, she will be bold and modify yours.
While tone is indeed significant when making requests or receiving things, it is still necessary to say “please” and “thank you,” especially for children who may struggle with intonation. Miss Manners also points out that saying “please” is no more challenging than saying “yes” or “no” and can even be endearing when mispronounced or spoken with a lisp.
Dear Miss Manners: I have a professional relationship with a man who misspells my name repeatedly, despite gentle corrections in emails. My name has two recognized spellings — for example, Ann and Anne. Although he spelled it correctly for a while, he has now returned to the misspelling.
I find this particularly frustrating given my explicit request and the fact that I sign every email with my correctly spelled name. What do you suggest I do?
In future emails, sign off as “Anne with an E.”
Dear Miss Manners: Almost every time someone at a restaurant table offers to pay the bill, there are vigorous protests from others, sometimes even attempts to grab the check to prevent that person from paying.
I often find myself making excuses when it’s my turn to pay, such as saying, “This is for your birthday,” even if the birthday has passed, or discreetly approaching the waiter to settle the bill without my friends noticing.
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