I decided to abstain from drinking because the groom’s crowd made me nervous. While Marianne was on the dance floor, her new husband approached me. Chris was quite drunk and started making sexual comments to me. So I tried to keep the conversation light and got away from him as soon as possible. A year later, a mutual friend of ours got married. Again, Chris got drunk and started having another weird conversation with me while Marianne was elsewhere.
Later that night, we were all dancing as a group, and he flipped me over his shoulder. I was extremely uncomfortable and embarrassed. I then avoided him for the rest of the night. Several months later, we went to a festival with friends. While his wife was sitting right across from us, he again started whispering sexual comments to me. Up until recently, I was making excuses for him. My boyfriend said, “If he’s making you uncomfortable, you’re reading the situation correctly.”
Should I tell Marianne that Chris is looking for people outside of the marriage? I’m sure that if he has made advances with me, then he has done this with others. Should I just avoid him at all costs? Or grow a backbone and tell him I’m not interested and if he wants to be with other people, he shouldn’t be married to my friend? She deserves better.
Guilty Friend: “Chris” is sexually harassing you. This might not be a case of him looking to have a relationship outside of his marriage. He is doing this because he feels like it and because he can. He chooses his moments, hiding in plain sight and in front of others when he believes he can’t be overheard. This is brazen, obnoxious, and creepy.
His behavior is an assertion of power, and, yes, if you feel safe doing so, you should tell him, directly and loudly, to knock it off. “Stop it. Stop sexually harassing me. Stop speaking to me. Back off.” Then, by all means, tell your friend.
Report truthfully to her that Chris has been sexually harassing you and that you’re sick of it, and that you have told him to stop. Tell her that you would like to maintain your lengthy friendship with her if possible, but that you will be maintaining a distance from him. Then ask her whether she is okay. It must be hard to be married to someone like this.
Dear Amy: I am a supervisor of a small section at the company I work for. My main assistant is a very intelligent and valued employee. The problem? She takes joy in pointing out other people’s errors
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